Just had a call from a quiet, caring and loving dad and husband, who is doing his level best at supporting his family in every way he can. Is he perfect? Of course not. Will he always get it ‘right’ (whatever that is)? not a chance – though it depends on your version of Right.
There is only one Dad in that family, only one husband, and he is it. I told him on the phone what an amazing man he is, choosing to steer and love his family through a pretty dark time, picking up the pieces that have fallen off in the storm, carrying them until he is able to fit them back together again – and no doubt praying for better days. Well done, Phil. (his real name.)
Some of you who read this may be familiar with the letters WWJD. They stand for ‘What Would Jesus Do?” and are quoted to encourage us to go for the best, the highest standards of behaviour and response to the difficulties of life and that’s fine of course – but in the more challenging moments WWJD can seem trite, idealistic and thin. When I’m going through the mill I generally have little idea of what Jesus might do, and as I’m not the Son of God I suspect the comparison may be a little odious.
My guess is that in Phil’s current environment, with crises beginning to layer themselves on top of each other like some sort of crude toxic lasagne, and no easy answers, WWJD doesn’t instantly spring to mind. What I chose to remind him of was that no matter how difficult the road, his current determination to do the best for his family, his determination to be strong, his obvious and willing commitment to love and support each of them in the way they need and are currently able to handle, deserves a massive ‘Well Done’ from those of us on the sidelines who, though able to help them all a little here and there (and of course doing so) are not walking in Phil’s shoes.
Phil, I think you are a living example of what Jesus would do. You are an amazing dad and husband. How can any of us do other than commend and honour you, and let you know that regardless of what outcomes there may be from this tough road, you have lived as a powerful example of grace and goodness to us all.
Only Phil can be Phil. And only you can be you. You could do worse than follow Phil’s example, let alone Jesus’. Faithful, loving, humble determined commitment to keep walking, though the road may be marked by significant injustice, deliberate misunderstanding, and a handful other other undeserved wrongs.
That’s called Getting It Right.