Acceptance or affection – what would your priority choice be?
I’ve thought a lot about it this month – not least because we are running the next ‘C’ in the SEVEN series in Powerchange and its ‘Clarity’ and as I was preparing the course I wanted clarity on this for me. Acceptance or Affection?
For me it is definitely affection. Acceptance is great, but affection is better. Acceptance is an early condition that allows affection to flow, but affection changes us at a different level. Acceptance makes the connection. Affection is the content. It is the oil, acceptance is the pipeline and tap. Affection ‘affects’ us, pouring in the tenderness and warmth, the love that human beings are designed to respond to…
… provided it is sincere. I guess insincere ‘affection’ is no more than treating the other person as a toy. I’m not even going to suggest ‘sincere affection’ as a qualifier, because affection HAS to be sincere in order to fulfil the definition.
Affection is giving not taking. It means something is transferred from one person to another. Affection is transforming – even in animals. Their heart rate slows, breathing becomes deeper, ‘good’ chemicals flow around their arteries and into their cells. Oxytocin, vasopressin, dopamine.
Affection – bring it on! Sex is about reproduction. Making love is about affection. A kiss on each cheek is (normally – there are notable exceptions) about acceptance. A sincere durable hug is more affectionate. Affection – the expression of sincere love.
Affection. It grows as it is spread around. People around you are desperate for some. Share some today.